I am at my wits end with Luke and seriously need some help! This is one for the parents and teachers out there. Honestly, any and all advice will be appreciated!
Luke is an extremely intelligent young man. There are however three problems:
1. He is lazy. I suppose this can be expected of any boy, especially one of 10.
2. He can’t focus. His mind is forever wondering off into some magically weird and wonderful world filled with stories.
3. He is very sensitive.
None of these are necessarily characteristics which would sound alarm bells, but put them all together, add schooling in an overcrowded classroom and Houston, we have a problem.
I’ve just received my 4th Detention notice for the term. One more and he gets expelled. His transgressions:
Forgetting to write down homework
Forgetting to do homework
Forgetting to have notices signed or just losing them altogether
Talking in class
We sat on the weekend and studied for a test for 3 full hours. He knew everything by heart. His result 13 / 40!
My options are severely limited in the sense that I can not afford private schooling. Home schooling is not an option either as I have to work, no choice there. I have tried grounding him, taking away privileges like TV shows or bike rides or going to the beach. I have tried incentives like adding x amount to his allowance for each positive result and in turn deduct x amount for each negative result. I have begged and pleaded and cried. I have yelled and threatened and cried. I have been paying for tablets (Brain Child) for the past two months, which are supposed to improve concentration and behavior. I have done everything apart from physically hitting him or playing the emotional blackmail card – I don’t believe in either one of these (is that where I am going wrong?).
Someone suggested that I have him tested for ADHD, but I have no medical aid and can’t afford it.
Guys, seriously, if you could see me now, you would understand. I am in a heap on the bathroom floor, crying my eyes out.
What do I do?