Pat on the back

Tell someone you’re proud of just how proud you are.


My Luka-boo

You have been always been a little chatter box and can talk the ears of an elephant!  Imagine our surprise when your Grade 1 teacher (and every teacher after that) told us that you are very reserved in class!  For the past five years I have had to endure teachers telling me that they need to drag answers out of you and that you would never put your hand up to answer a question.  Year after year they keep complaining that you can’t focus or sit still in class.  I have had to hear countless times that you are disruptive in class as you keep chatting to friends, but don’t want to participate in class discussions.  Do you remember how many times we’ve spoken about this?

Then came Grade 5 with more subjects, more assignments and more responsibility.  Of course it also meant you having to stay after school for detention.  We tried all forms of discipline and it would work for two, maybe three days and then we were back to square one.  I honestly thought that I was failing you  miserably as a parent and that there was no hope left.

Then we discovered Mindset and out world was turned upside down, hey?

Your report card came and I nearly jumped through the roof 🙂 but we still had the dreaded parent-teacher meetings ahead of us 😦

I sat outside each class, nervously waiting on my turn, and watched as parent after parent departed with long faces.  My turn came and I kept our tablets secret, because I first wanted to hear what they had to say.

“Luke has suddenly started to blossom into a child which truly reflects his intellect”

“Luke has changed and is suddenly offering answers, every time”

“Luke has become a joy to have in the classroom”

“Luke has undergone a huge change during the holidays and he has not once been written up for disruptive behavior”

Then I brought out the trump-card: Mindset!  They were all united in saying that, whatever happens, I should not stop giving the tablets to you.  the deputy-headmaster even said that he has seen a bigger change in your attitude, behavior and performance than on any child who was ever placed on Ritalin.


My angel, I am so proud of you!  I cried all the way home and still want to cry when I think about everything we have been through to get here.

My trooper, you soldier on and finally we will be able to see what you are really capably of!

I am proud of you sweetie-pie!


Some proud bloggers:

  1. Political Anomaly: The Peculiar Case of Jose Mujica | I am Mike Obiora
  2. This is how we weigh the dog | weliveinaflat
  3. Gratitude to an Angel | In Harmony
  4. Pat on the Back | Books, Music and Movies : my best friends
  5. Kids |tanka| | STAIN
  6. Abstract | Kunsten
  7. Daily Prompt: Pat on the Back | Under the Monkey Tree
  8. Daily Prompt: Pat on the Back | George and Nigel
  9. Daily Prompt: Pat on the Back – show us SUCCESS. | masadiso79’s Blog
  10. Reach for you Military Dream | Daily Prompt: Pat on the Back | Being a Huntress
  11. Daily Post: Pat on the Back | I Work for a Jerk
  12. Pat on the Back | Motherhood and Beyond
  13. Sara’s Success | clarior e tenebris
  14. You’re on the Right Track | King Jeremy Chronicles
  15. A Successful day… | The Rider

No longer drawing a blank

When was the last time your walked away from a discussion, only to think of The Perfect Comeback hours later? Recreate the scene for us, and use your winning line.


Since I am of the habit to always draw a blank, I decided to tell you instead of a scenario which took place about two weeks ago, where I did not draw a blank!  Personal growth, I love you!

In May 2013 I did a post on my Fight or Flight response.  I am glad to report that it is no longer a valid response!

About 2 weeks ago, Jacques and I went to a local pub to watch one of the Super 15 rugby games.  On the way out he popped over to the loo and I waited for him at the door.  Out of the blue and for no apparent reason, some idiot (obviously made very brave by the amount of alcohol he consumed) dared to approach me from behind.  As if the approach was not bad enough, he called me “Poppie” (little doll).  Now, I am  no one’s little doll.  It is a typical Afrikaans nickname for a girl, but one that has sent me over the brink ever since I can remember!

I turned around and, from nowhere, was filled with a rage that I’ve never known before.  I think all my pent-up frustration was spilled over to this poor sod who incidentally was a rather large man, who quite frankly had no idea what was about to hit him!  I took the single step that separated the space between us, firmly gripped his shirt right at the center of his chest, turning my wrist with such force that it tore half of my nail right out of the nail bed (I only noticed that much, much later when I tried to figure out where the bleeding was coming from!).  While turning my wrist, I was also pushing him backwards and my free hand had an index finger in his face.  In very unsavory terms, which I choose not to utter here, I told him to never do that again.

From the corner of my eye, I saw Jacques exiting the bathroom and his jaw almost hit the floor when he saw me pushing and shoving and shouting at this giant.  Shame, poor guy, I’m sure it was the very last thing he expected and hopefully I have saved a couple of young ladies the indignity!

A day or so later, Jacques and I had a good laugh about it and only then did I come to the realization that, for the first time ever, I did not freeze!

So yay for me!  I have always been slightly concerned about the fact that, if someone had to attack me, I would not be able to defend myself.  Don’t get me wrong, I am not under the impression that I am now Superwoman, but at least I now know that I will be able to put up a little bit of a fight.

Where others are drawing a blank:

  1. Heated | The Rider
  2. Heated | The Magic Black Book
  3. Heaven And Hell As I Think It | I am Mike Obiora
  4. DP: Heated | Books, Music and Movies : my best friends
  5. Drawing a Blank: Another Short Post | Khana’s Web
  6. Daily Prompt: Drawing a Blank – show us HEATED. | masadiso79’s Blog
  7. Drawing a Blank | Geek Ergo Sum
  8. Daily Prompt: Drawing a Blank « Mama Bear Musings
  9. Daily Prompt: Drawing a Blank | Vagabond
  10. Daily Prompt: Drawing a Blank | Under the Monkey Tree
  11. Believing in Atheism? | Eyes Through The Glass – A Blog About Asperger’s
  12. So that’s my finely tuned cover blown…thanks for that. | thoughtsofrkh
  13. While I Burned: A Demonstration of Artistic Improvement | DG Toons
  14. Just a Dish! | Daily Prompt: Drawing a Blank | Being a Huntress
  15. Daily Prompt : Drawing a Blank >>> Zoning Out | From Ground to Home

The State of My Year

Write up a mid-year “State of My Year” post.


Phew, this year has gone by so quickly and looking back, it’s been one huge roller coaster of a ride!

January started with a bang and the festivities of December was carried over when we attended Kalahari Karoo Blues and the Solms Delta Taste and Tweet at the Baxter Theatre.

February started with the sickening rape and murder of Anene Booysen and Valentine’s Day brought  the shock of Oscar Pistorius having (allegedly) (purposefully) murdered his girlfriend Reeva Steenkamp.  The trial commences in August and we will get a better picture then.  Luckily the month ended on a high note with tickets to see Robin Sharma at the Cape Town International Convention Centre.

March means harvest time in the Cape and we attended the Ormonde Harvest Day in Darling and were spoiled rotten!

April brought on Bloggers Awards Season and there were loads of that going around!  I read Insanity by Charles Bronson and Boston Marathon bombings shocked the entire world.

May was meltdown month for me.  Luke’s problems at school escalated to the point where I could take no more.  I learned about GMO’s for the first time and were shocked to the core at the junk we are fed, camouflaged as food!    We attended the March against Monsanto at as well as the Good Food and Wine Show.  The month ended on a realization about my status of being proudly South African and I decided to start learning Xhosa.

June was an eye-opener month.  I took up Xhosa and was able to communicate with Chippa in his mother tongue.  It turned the tables and I left him crying!  I discovered the wonder of seven point five and the secrets in my blood and immediately started Luke on Mindset tablets.  We started attending The Bay Christian Family Church with Dr Allan and Pastor Janine Bagg.  I recommitted my life to God and made a couple of fantastic friends.  God immediately started working wonders in our lives and the changes have been miraculous!

July saw tremendous personal growth for Jacques, Luke and myself.  God provided in ways which we never could have imagined.  Luke is focused and continues to blossom in school thanks to Mindset.  I had my best sales month of the year.  I have faced some emotional giants and put them to ground and we continue to grow as a couple and as a family.  There was a change of ownership at my work, which I am very happy about and things are looking up on all fronts!

For the first time in ages, I can say that we are really looking forward to the rest of the year.

Other bloggers’ year in retrospect:

  1. Beasties, B****cks and Bullshit Detectors! State of My Year! | alienorajt
  2. Now. | suzie81’s Blog
  3. State of Geek Ergo Sum address | Geek Ergo Sum
  4. The Tri-State Area | Daily Prompt: State of Your Year | likereadingontrains
  5. Daily Prompt: State of Your Year | Vagabond
  6. 2013: State of My Year – So Far | Love. Life.
  7. This is MY Year | Daily Prompt: State of Your Year | Being a Huntress
  8. Chaos, panic and disorder | Echoes and Whispers
  9. Respectless the respectful way | Le Drake Noir
  10. Daily Prompt: State of Your Year | George and Nigel
  11. Aprons and kerchiefs and brooms, oh my! | Relax…
  12. DP: Now | Books, Music and Movies : my best friends
  13. The State of Me is Better Than the State of You-Know-What | The Jittery Goat
  14. Daily Prompt: State of Your Year ~ NOW In the Campo | In Da Campo
  15. Daily Prompt: State of Your Year « Mama Bear Musings

Life after blogs

Your life without a computer: what does it look like?


Oh no!!!  No computer, no blog!!!  No!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  Someone please wake me up from this nightmare existence!

I desperately need a keyboard to purge my soul of all the words struggling to find their way out.  My mouth simply can’t comprehend the foreign language brought forth by my brain.  However, when I bypass the mouth and let it flow from my brain through my finger tips, it culminates to a blissful release.

I have a huge respect for the great writers: William Shakespeare, Edgar Allan Poe, Charles Dickens, Mark Twain and Ernest Hemmingway for instance.  How did they do it.  How did they put quill to paper and get thousand of people to read their work without internet connectivity, without email and online publishers?  Respect!

No, I can’t imagine how they did it or even fathom the possibility of me being able to do it!

What others would do without blogs:

  1. Masterpiece, it’s all dependent on perspective | weliveinaflat
  2. Digital Detox | MC’s Whispers
  3. Daily Prompt: Life After Blogs| Disconnected | Under the Monkey Tree
  4. Daily Prompt: Life After Blogs | Alastair’s Blog
  5. Go on Actual Blind Dates | Daily Prompt: Life After Blogs | likereadingontrains
  6. Daily Prompt: Life After Blogs « Mama Bear Musings
  7. A Fairy Tale Tribunal | Spirit Lights The Way
  8. Poem – Reboot | Cozy Compulsions @ Midnight
  9. Daily Prompt: Life After Blogs | suzie81’s Blog
  10. Remembering When . . . | meanderedwanderings
  11. Zoe without computers… Shhhh! It would be… | Mad Pot
  12. Daily Prompt: Without | Books, Music and Movies : my best friends
  13. Daily Prompt: Life After Blogs | Retired2Travel
  14. Where would I be without my Computer? | Linda Nelson
  15. Off-Limits… | DG Toons


Back to School

If you could take a break from your life and go back to school to master a subject, what would it be?


I am one of those “freaks” who really would not mind going back to school.  The other day we tried to explain the concept to Luke:

When you are in school, you wake up, get dressed (in the clothes already set out for you), eat breakfast in bed, brush your teeth and hair and go to school.  Once there, you spend time with your friends, get two breaks in which you get to eat the lunch, which was packed for you.  O yes, you need to apply your brain for about 6 hours of that time too.  You go home and spend, at most, 2 hours on homework and then you get to play until dinner is set out for you before you are taken to bed and tucked in with a story.  Add to that the fact that you get no less than four holidays per year!  Bliss!

For some odd reason, he just can’t seem to grasp the concept.  Hey, we were all there once, right?

Heck, I would go back to school any day!  What subject would I master?

For starters, I would look at final year as exactly that: my final year to put in my best effort, to study like there is no tomorrow and achieve the best possible marks.

I would definitely want to revisit Grade 7 and opt to continue with History as an elected subject.  If I knew then what I know now, Mr Joubert with his yellow mustache and teeth and his liking for spanking girls (yes, corporal punishment was still allowed) and Boutros Boutros Ghali, would not have deterred me and I would have carried on with History.  I regret not having pursued it, as there is so much about history that I simply don’t know.  Silly old perv completely turned me off history and I missed out!

Thank goodness for Google and Wikipedia!  Now I get to learn all I want about the subject, without a smelly perv staring over my shoulder!

What other bloggers would want to master:

  1. Daily Prompt: Back to School | Under the Monkey Tree
  2. Daily Prompt: Back to School | Black and White Heart
  3. Photography | Daily Prompt: Back to School | Being a Huntress
  4. Daily Prompt: Back to School | Life is great
  5. Potions, Anyone? | windandlaughter
  6. Back to School | Geek Ergo Sum
  7. If I am back to school…. | Books, Music and Movies : my best friends
  8. Back to School | The Coffee Darling
  9. Science Journalism, yay! | Sincerely, Ms. Roberts
  10. Daily Prompt: Back To School | suzie81’s Blog
  11. Daily Prompt: Back to School | I Read Encyclopedias for Fun
  12. Daily Prompt: Back to School | Retired2Travel
  13. Sincerely, Your Bitch for Life | My Beautiful Breakdown
  14. Master Mind [Daily Prompt: Back to School] | unknowinglee
  15. What I Would Master | dreamingforme

A friend in need

Finish this sentence: “My closest friend is…”

Everyone who knows me and loves me understand that there is only one answer to this question:


My mom!

My mother is so much more than just a mom.  She is my best friend and closest ally.  She is soft and cuddly and fun (as described by Luke) and (according to him) I should really try to be less uptight about everything and be more like her.

She has lived enough life for three lifetimes, yet she still has the spirit of an 18 year old!  She has gone paragliding and quad-racing, she is planning to go bungee-jumping some time before the end of the year and her list of “to do” items are never ending.  Her passion for life is insatiable!

Together we have laughed and cried and cried and laughed.  We have baked and cooked and sewed and ran.  My mom have taught me about life and love and and cats and God and I love this woman to bits.

God sure knew what He was doing when He picked my mom out of the bunch!

Here are some more true friends:

  1. Friendship | Sithiram
  2. Daily Prompt: A Friend in Need | Artsy Susie
  3. My Closest Friend is…Dying | Kami’s Beautiful Morning
  4. Friendship Said and Unsaid: Squeak and Mary Agnes | Love Mekanism
  5. Daily Prompt: My Closest Friend Is… | Quando Porci Volare
  6. Daily Prompt: A Friend in Need | 4 The Sensitive
  7. Is Your Conscience Your Best Friend? | Joseph Rathjen – Freelance Writing Services and Blog
  8. Daily Prompt: A Friend in Need | An Angel Placed in My Life | Jazrylle Lel
  9. She is not my Best Friend | Moupinion


From the Collection of the Artist

It’s the year 2113. A major museum is running an exhibition on life and culture as it was in 2013. You’re asked to write an introduction for the show’s brochure. What will it say?



Join us for an insightful evening into  life as it was known in 2013.

A sorry time in human history when time and money had more value than family, compassion and love or spirituality.  A time where very few realized that if you win the rat race, you are still only a rat.

Journey with us through the year that was as we showcase how humans would leave home before sunrise and get home long after sunset.  A time when children spent their formation years with strangers who became “parents” while parents became people, known only in the dark hours of the day, who were only their to discipline and talk about stress and worries that consumed their every thought.  2013 Was a time when “everything” could be bought: love, affection, trust.  Money was seen as the key to happiness and this led to a culture of constantly racing:  to be more and have more than the Jones’.  A time where the human life held virtually no value and respect for self and others became a foreign concept.

Come journey with us and witness the madness that was humanity in 2013.

Some more thoughts on 2013:

  1. To Know Me | clarior e tenebris
  2. From the Collection of the Artist | Geek Ergo Sum
  3. Retrospective Views | Books, Music and Movies : my best friends
  4. All Roads lead to Metro Manila | Daily Prompt: From the Collection of the Artist | likereadingontrains
  5. Dog food. Cat bowl. | weliveinaflat
  6. 24 July Daily Prompt: From the Collection of the Artist | Family, Photos, Food and Craft
  7. Remembering Humans | Black and White Heart
  8. Agree Or Disagree, They Called It Art | The Jittery Goat
  9. Daily Prompt: From the Collection of the Artist | George and Nigel
  10. Or, Well, Was, Is | Good2begone
  11. Conflict And Change | Tony’s Texts
  12. History of Mankind: A Tour in 2113 | it writes itself
  13. Daily Prompt: From the Collection of the Artist | The Daily Post « The Blogging Path
  14. Daily Prompt: From the Collection of the Artist | Welcome to Joshua Montrell Woodard’s Blog Site!
  15. Daily Prompt: From the Collection of the Artist | Chronicles of an Anglo Swiss


If a restaurant were to name something after you, what would it be? Describe it. (Bonus points if you give us a recipe!)


I might have mentioned once or twice before that I might have a small caffeine addiction.  Jacques teased this weekend that my tombstone needs no words, just a picture of a sizzling cup of Java!  So true.

My recipe would definitely be for a Chococino.  For those who pay attention to their weight or are very health conscious, this might just send you reeling, so I apologize in advance!

Double shot of espresso – proper espresso, none of that watered down stuff.

Full Cream Milk – slowly brought to boiling point.

Lindt 75% Cacao Chocolate – 3 – 4 blocks will do

2 Marshmallows, snipped into tiny pieces

Get yourself a large mug, chug it all together and stir.

Finally, top with whipped cream and chocolate shavings!

Find a quiet spot and enjoy!


Your hips might regret it, but you sure wont!

PS No need to thank me, just spread the love!

Some more tantalizing recipes:

  1. Shake me and I rattle | The Magic Black Book
  2. You, The Sandwich (Meat) | Geek Ergo Sum
  3. Daily Prompt: You, the Sandwich | suzie81’s Blog
  4. Leche Flan Ice Cream Sandwich | Daily Prompt: You, the Sandwich | likereadingontrains
  5. Welcome to Restaurant “Caprice Infatuation” | Ramisa the Authoress
  6. The ferocious breakfast stack | Right Down My Alley
  7. Angelini’s Shrimp Tacos! | Mary Angelini Photography
  8. Smoked Rider Eisbein- sorry, not kosher or halaal | The Rider
  9. Daily Prompt: Me And The Sausage | Mindful Splatter
  10. “Oh, Oh, Oh, I’ll Take The Jittery Goat Special!” With Recipe | The Jittery Goat
  11. Daily Prompt: You, the Sandwich | Retired2Travel
  12. Daily Prompt: Dinner | Books, Music and Movies : my best friends
  13. And today’s special is- ‘The dish not yet perfected’ | Expressions
  14. Pure Cyn | clarior e tenebris
  15. The KJam | The Road to Published

A career in Political Writing?

Go to your Stats page and check your top 3-5 posts. Why do you think they’ve been successful? Find the connection between them, and write about it.

top 5

Here are my Top 5 posts since I started blogging:

Eugene Tere’blance, Julius Malema and everyone inbetween


On being hugged by a black guy

An Open Letter to Ina Bonnette

What happens when Madiba dies?

I must admit, I was quite surprised when I discovered that 3 of the Top 5 posts related to politics in South Africa.  I was secretly hoping that my posts about personal growth and being positive would be top of the list.  Mmmm, very interesting indeed.  Perhaps I should be looking into doing more posts about politics?  What do you think?

I will run a poll later and would love to hear what you think!

Some insight into other blogs:

  1. Daily Prompt: The Stat Connection | flow of my soul
  2. Statistical Connections | Books, Music and Movies : my best friends
  3. Daily Prompt: The Stat Connection | suzie81’s Blog
  4. Small Windows | Daily Prompt: The Stat Connection | likereadingontrains
  5. I Have Dreams About Stats. And Nightmares! | Black and White Heart
  6. The key to success | Sue’s Trifles
  7. Obvious Connections | clarior e tenebris
  8. The Stat Connection | Geek Ergo Sum
  9. To Write A Blog Post | Lewis Cave
  10. Hi there | Relax…
  11. Whoring Statistics | My Beautiful Breakdown
  12. Daily Prompt: The Stat Connection > Elementary, My Dear Watson | From Ground to Home
  13. What Makes A Good Blog Post – Or Not? | The Jittery Goat
  14. Stats | Hope* the happy hugger
  15. Connection | windandlaughter