From the Collection of the Artist

It’s the year 2113. A major museum is running an exhibition on life and culture as it was in 2013. You’re asked to write an introduction for the show’s brochure. What will it say?

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Image:  http://legit-faith.com/2012/03/06/the-rat-race/

Join us for an insightful evening into  life as it was known in 2013.

A sorry time in human history when time and money had more value than family, compassion and love or spirituality.  A time where very few realized that if you win the rat race, you are still only a rat.

Journey with us through the year that was as we showcase how humans would leave home before sunrise and get home long after sunset.  A time when children spent their formation years with strangers who became “parents” while parents became people, known only in the dark hours of the day, who were only their to discipline and talk about stress and worries that consumed their every thought.  2013 Was a time when “everything” could be bought: love, affection, trust.  Money was seen as the key to happiness and this led to a culture of constantly racing:  to be more and have more than the Jones’.  A time where the human life held virtually no value and respect for self and others became a foreign concept.

Come journey with us and witness the madness that was humanity in 2013.

Some more thoughts on 2013:

  1. To Know Me | clarior e tenebris
  2. From the Collection of the Artist | Geek Ergo Sum
  3. Retrospective Views | Books, Music and Movies : my best friends
  4. All Roads lead to Metro Manila | Daily Prompt: From the Collection of the Artist | likereadingontrains
  5. Dog food. Cat bowl. | weliveinaflat
  6. 24 July Daily Prompt: From the Collection of the Artist | Family, Photos, Food and Craft
  7. Remembering Humans | Black and White Heart
  8. Agree Or Disagree, They Called It Art | The Jittery Goat
  9. Daily Prompt: From the Collection of the Artist | George and Nigel
  10. Or, Well, Was, Is | Good2begone
  11. Conflict And Change | Tony’s Texts
  12. History of Mankind: A Tour in 2113 | it writes itself
  13. Daily Prompt: From the Collection of the Artist | The Daily Post « The Blogging Path
  14. Daily Prompt: From the Collection of the Artist | Welcome to Joshua Montrell Woodard’s Blog Site!
  15. Daily Prompt: From the Collection of the Artist | Chronicles of an Anglo Swiss

Nostalgic

This week’s Weekly Photo Challenge asks us to post a photo which brings a sense of nostalgia to us.

For some reason I have been thinking a lot about life and our mortality lately.  When my mom posted this photo on Facebook, it brought such a sense of nostalgia, I just knew that it was the right one for this challenge.  It’s a photo of me (on the left), my sister (who passed away in 2005 in the middle) and my brother (on the right) WAY back when.  It brings back so many memories and I wish with all my heart we could once again sit down together for a meal or just to talk nonsense!

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I am no mystery – the mystery is inside of me!

Tell us something most people probably don’t know about you.

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I got this one from Larry David’s Lush Quotes.  If you don’t know the site, do yourself a favor and pop in there.  They have thousands of quotes on all subjects.  Best of all, you are free to click, save and share as many as you want to.

Getting back to the post, I have been told once or twice that I am mysterious.  It is a concept that I fail to grasp.  I am just the girl next door; there is nothing special about me, I am just me.  With me it is very much a case of “what you see is what you get”.

To me, life really is black or white.  I don’t do the grey area thing.  If there is something which turns into a grey area, I go walking.  I mull it over and over and over in my head, until it makes sense.  Sorry to say, but I really can’t stand people who are indecisive about who and what they are, what they stand for and what they want out of life.

On that last point, I might be a bit of hypocrite though, so it put’s me in a tough position.

I know what I want out of life, but at the same time, I have this sense that there is something more, something bigger that I am destined for.  It is something that has been with me for just over 8 years now and every now and then it becomes this uncontrollable urge to just run until I find that which I am supposed to find.  For some reason, yet unknown to me, I just know that I am destined for more.  I don’t know which area of my life that pertains to, I just know that it is there.  When I am at the right place (emotionally and spiritually), I know the answer will be revealed to me.

I suppose that is my mystery wrapped in enigma for you.

I am heading for something big!  Like me, you will just have to stick around to find out exactly what that is.

The Road Less Traveled

Pinpoint a moment in your past where you had to make a big decision. Write about that other alternate life that could have unfolded.

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I have written on The Road Less Traveled before, although from a different perspective.

There have been quite a few “points of no return” in my life and I am really struggling to find one to pinpoint for this prompt.

I guess you could say it was a momentous day when I had the choice at 13 whether I want to go live with my mom or my dad.  My brother was already out the house, my sister opted to go live with my dad and I chose to stay with my mom.

Also you could say that it was a turning point when, at 18 halfway through my matric year, I decided to move to Johannesburg – on my own.

Another big one was in 2011 when I realized that I have died on the inside and, despite the fact that we really do love each other, our marriage can not be saved.  That is a big decision right there; 12 years of marriage is not something to snort at, but sometimes you have to do what is right for you.

A lot happened in my life.  Not all good, but more importantly, not all bad.  I like to think that everything that happened, happened for a reason.  All of those event shaped me into the person I am today.  Through it all I had God’s love and grace over me, and that is what has given me the strength to carry on.

I am not one to sit and ponder about “what could have been”.  Thus the reason why I can’t pinpoint a specific situation for this prompt.

Yesterday is gone, never to be seen again.  Tomorrow is not guaranteed.  The only thing you are certain of is right now.  Live your life in a way that would make right now the most important, the best moment of your life.  Learn from the past, but don’t hold on to it.  Don’t worry about what could have been, you could never really know the outcome.

You are where you are now, right at this moment, as a result of a lot of circumstance and choices you have made.  Contemplating about what could have been is just torture.  You can not go back and make something “un-happen”.  Regardless of how much you would like to, you can not go back and retract those words or actions.

If you make today count, yesterday and tomorrow loses its power and simply does not matter.

I am alive now, I have this day and for that I am grateful.

No longer a mere mortal

You’ve imbibed a special potion that makes you immortal. Now that you’ve got forever, what changes will you make in your life? How will you live life differently, knowing you’ll always be around to be accountable for your actions?

I suppose some will love the idea of living forever; going from one era to the next, see the change in society and how we adjust to new inventions and such. That’s not for me though.

I really wouldn’t want to be immortal, not on earth in any event. Just the idea that I could never truly love someone and grow old with them is enough to make me cringe. It must be horrible to fall in love, share a life and build memories, just to see the person you adore grow old and die right in front of your eyes, all while you remain forever 35.

If I had no choice and I have to be immortal on earth, I suppose I would do all I can to fight for equality and freedom. I would dedicate my days to solely fighting for the greater good, telling people of a much better life that awaits us after this one.

Immortality in the here-after: now that is something that I really look forward to. I guess knowing that there is an eternity of love and joy that awaits us is what makes death less scary for me.

What do you think?

When closing doors and burning bridges are the only options

This Paulo Coelho quote really struck home with me today:

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Each of us have a different stories, unfolding day by day, and no-one could ever really understand all the emotion and dynamics involved in your story, that much I  know.  We always hear that we should never burn bridges, but what happens when you have no choice but to burn the bridge?  What happens when your sanity, the serenity of your soul, depend on closing that door?

Who is the best person then to guide you when faced with the decision to close that door and walk away?  I once heard that for the best relationship advice you should speak to someone who is in a successful relationship, likewise the best person to ask career advice from is someone who are happy in what they do and have the money to show for it.

If faced with a failing career, do you then go to the employment guru, who will no doubt tell you to walk away, find your passion and try your hand at that?

If faced with a failing relationship, do you then go to someone who is madly in love after 40 years of marriage (if you can still find someone like that!), who will no doubt tell you to hang on there and whether the storm?

At what point do you forget about loyalty and the what-if’s and maybe’s?  And what point is it OK to stop thinking about what makes the other party happy and think about yourself, even if they might consider you to be selfish in doing so?

Sometimes we have to burn bridges and close doors that no longer lead anywhere, but how do we know when it is the right thing to do and your actions and merely being obscured by the past?

A life is lost, a soul reclaimed

Photo: whatislistening.com

I first saw him yesterday morning. Standing on the corner, his posture spoke of a defeated man. He turned and raise his face to the morning sun, the wintry rays of sunshine turning his tears to shimmering rivers. The rivers traveling down the landscape that was his face, found a final resting place in a bushy white beard.

I last saw him yesterday afternoon. Standing next to the hearse, the coffin blurred out by his tears. He once more turned his face upwards, they had to hurry. The day was running away from them, disappearing into the ocean. The funeral had to be over before the final light vanished and night came in to hide the black hole in his heart. The setting sun turned the world into a marshmallow pink, a warm mountain wind would bring rain over night.

We turned the corner and the procession disappeared from my sight. The prayers called to heaven by family and friends silenced by the hustle and bustle of life that carries on.

A tragic yet realistic reminder that we do not know the number of days in our life. Spend every day in gratitude and let those who live in your heart know that they are loved.

Start writing your new chapter, it’s your time my friend

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How easy it is to tell someone to let go of the past and move on!  The act itself is something completely different from those eight words, I know.  I had a phone call from an old friend today and we spoke about exactly that.

Moving on, or rather moving forward, with your life entails two very important processes, which are intrinsically linked:  Letting go and doing what is right for you.  What does this mean?  The words to follow may seem harsh, but do yourself the favor and take it in, digest it, mull over it – it will make sense sooner or later.

Let Go!

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Us humans are strange creatures who tend to hold on to every memory we ever had, the good and the bad.  We can use those memories and the emotions that went with it to work for us or against us.  Letting go means that you teach yourself to make those emotions work for you.  Use the good ones to uplift your spirit as opposed to it making you sad when you think about what is no more.  Remember the good times and how they made you feel.  Focus your energy on that feeling and use that feeling to catapult you into a new direction.  Use the bad ones to be a driving force to find better / do it better next time around as opposed to turning it into fuel for anger and resentment.  If you keep focusing on the negativity of how you felt at the time, you continually poison your soul.

Letting go means that you make peace.  Not only with the person or the situation, but also with yourself.  Accept what happened.  Accept where you went wrong.  Accept where they went wrong.  Accept what happened.  Acceptance is one of the most powerful tools available to us.  With acceptance comes peace.  I’m not saying forget.  I’m not saying you shouldn’t feel the hurt.  Allow yourself the luxury of grief, but don’t grief forever.  Unless you go for hypnosis or suffer severe amnesia, you will never forget.  Accept it and forgive the person / situation that offended you.  If you are mad at your mother for not hugging you enough as a child, you carry that anger with you and it poisons future relationships.  If you are mistrustful of people because someone cheated on you, the poison that you carry with you will ultimately destroy your next relationship, and the next until you decide to let it go.  You control your destiny!  Only you have the power to decide what influences your life.  You choose which forces you want to allow to interfere with your future.

Do what is right for you!

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Believe it or not, but this is perhaps the most difficult thing to do.  We get so caught up in the expectations that others have for us – spouses, bosses, family – that we don’t really know what we want.  We think we do, but in the end it just turns out to be more of what someone else wants for you.  If you are stuck in a relationship that is not feeding your soul, uplifting your spirit, you would feel that you need to get out.  The other person might not necessary see it that way and walking out would leave them with a lot of questions.  The journey to find out what you really want is a scary one.  It will leave you to question your believes about yourself, about society, about life.  Take it from someone who has been down that road, it is worth it in the end.  Be still and know.  Once you tune out the noise and listen to what your soul is trying to tell you, you will know what is right for you.

One last quote before I go:

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